This post is not about what clothes you wear or about the evils of sweat pants, but it is about the "message you're sending out to the world". We all send a vibe, attitude, or message to the world. You know, like the messages we send when we are on elevators, "don't talk to me". Or when we were in school and we did do the homework, "don't call on me". The non-verbal type like that.
You can't give away what you don't have. What do I mean? You can't send the message of "I am a confident person" when you are not a confident person. Sure, you can fake it for a short time, but when it comes to meeting people in the hope of a relationship connection, your acting ability will only get you so far. Either you are or you are not a confident person. Both types send the message even if they don't realize it. It is one of those intangibles that makes us humans so awesome.
Now, there is something you can consider doing about it. Give away what you do have. Everyone has certain level of giftedness or strengths. We all tend to focus on our weaknesses so much so that those weak area(s) rob us of being confident. It is like the imaginary audience. We all tend to believe that EVERYONE sees our faults all the time. Well, I have got news for ya. They don't. Why? Because they are so focused on their own faults to see yours, especially those weak area(s) that are a part of your view of yourself. Get together with people you trust and have them help you remember your strengths. That is what you have to give away like a message to the world.
Sure, there is always time to dwell on the weak area(s), try spending more time re-discovering, dwelling and sharing your strengths. It will give you confidence(not arrogance). And confidence is attractive to everyone.
Shawn
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